How I Stopped Worrying about Marriage

Firstly, thank you so much everyone who has commented on my posts about cold feet and dreading my wedding. Your support has overwhelmed me and helped me more than I can say. Thank you!


So, how am I feeling about my marriage now? Nervous, I am almost 2 months away (I am sure that’s normal!), but I am also feeling peaceful, because I saw where my problems where coming from. For my best effort at describing this I would ask you to read this post here (puppets) if you haven’t already, I’d let things in my life lie dormant in me, ready and waiting to take control of my emotions and sabotage my life.

My first piece of advice if you are worrying over something – go back and pray about things in your past. Don’t dwell or chew over things, but quickly and calmly give them over to God again, let Him cut the ties from your past. Leave them with Him there.

Stop thinking what you are thinking and think about what God says. Seriously, even if you don’t agree with what the bible is saying think about it anyway. Whether or not you understand God is always right. Here’s my example – “Rejoice in the Lord always” I find this hard, confusing and it feels a bit fake – but when I think about the verse and mull it over in my mind it seems to settle my emotions down – so even without agreement God is working through His word. Amazing!

When you know what God wants you to do don’t doubt it – just trust Him and move towards doing it. I took a lot of time to pray and think about if marriage was the right way for me to go at this time in my life and He said yes, strongly, clearly and peacefully. I then started re-evaluating my decisions and that’s where my problems came. Once God says something to you – don’t let the doubts play havoc with your mind!

So here I am calm, peaceful and excited about my marriage! Good bye cold feet 🙂

Anyway, the main point of this post is to say thank you to all of you who took the time to comment, contact me and pray for me. It has been amazing and helped me so much!

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8 thoughts on “How I Stopped Worrying about Marriage

  1. I’m so glad you have resolution on your worry!!! A serious question here: “He said yes, strongly, clearly and peacefully.” I have never “heard” God this way. You and others seem to. Can you tell me what this is like? Thanks, Diane

    • Firstly – I am so sorry for the delay in answering this! I think for all people it is different, for me I hear God clearly when a thought comes into my mind and I have peace about it, it’s probably not helpful but I just know that it didn’t come from me. Also I always test what I “hear” if it doesn’t tie in with God’s character and if it doesn’t match the bible I will realise it was just me getting confused. What normally happens for me is that someone else will come and tell me the exact thing I have “heard” just as a double check from God that He was the one to say it. Definitely hearing from God is a process for me not a voice in the sky type of thing. I know of strong Christians who never hear like this. My fiancé for example doesn’t hear God like this but prays and then see what happens in his circumstances and what makes sense and sees that as how God guides him. Hope this helps a little?

  2. Thank you for this post, though I am not getting married or even in a relationship so many of the things you said resonated for me. I really needed to hear them.

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